My Mantra for 2021 and Beyond!

Pause. Breathe. Feel.

This is probably my new mantra from Eat. Sleep. Repeat. Not that I’m much of a sleep person, or an eat person either. But you combine the work-from-home and the cold weather—well, that’s what you get—guilty as charged! Actually wait, maybe not that guilty. How else would I have coped with the stress of all that happening with me, or the world in general? So maybe I should just thank my mom for the great food, and my dad for letting me sleep till 9 AM every morning. On second thoughts, better not remind them, parents have a tendency to not take appreciation well from their children. At least mine don’t!

So what changed you’re asking? Well, New year, New me (Duh)! But it’s also come from a place where I’ve been holding myself uptight for a little longer than necessary. Maybe not pausing to take a deep breath, and just feel—particularly if it meant crying my heart out on dear Mr. Pillow. On other occasions, it has been about not opening up to people, hiding my emotions, and keeping myself from writing about it. Maybe you do need to keep things to yourself at some points. But somewhere along that, it makes you appreciate the beauty of something as simple as feeling.

Like right now if I take a deep breath, I can really feel the rain doing some crazy things to my nostrils. I can feel the cold almost like an old friend, waiting to wrap its arms around me. Some fond memories, people I would rather be with than typing this whole thing out (okay maybe not so much if I get good comments)! And the whole warmth of just making it through a really really tough year. Great, now I’m whole emo.

The point being? 2020 has made me realize that life can never be what you plan it to be. There is always going to be one thing or the other, sometimes like an overbearing phase, sometimes in small sad moments… It’s always going to have its low points that will at times overpower all the good that you have felt. And in those moments, you have to find your own ways to get through. Yes at times it could be dealing with it right away, or just pushing it off till you are ready to face it, or gradually building up yourself to get through it eventually - you choose.

What I’m talking about here is more about what you do once you find your way to deal with it. Few days after you have talked about your struggles with someone, or written your heart out, or taken big steps to solve your challenges… Take a pause. And a deep breath. You have done something new. You have taken a step to come out of your misery. And that itself is a big thing. Because you are growing. You’re putting it out that you are going to sail through that tide. And you are already setting your ship to sail again.

Pause. Breath. And let that sink in. You, dear human, after everything you have been through, are ready to take one more step to help yourself out of all the shit life has thrown at you. That is your win. Feel it. Give yourself a clap on the back, a big hug, and a smile the next time you look at the mirror. You deserve it. Life, and all the good that comes with it. As for next steps, you can work on that too. But keep it a point to feel your silent wins every once in a while. Life will probably feel worth it. :)

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